I am sure y’all have all had the same trouble at one time or another and have tossed and turned many nights wondering why you did or didn’t do that thing. I suppose it is a very common thing for most people, and everyone has their own regrets. How do you deal with that?

Do you look for opportunities to rectify that thing you did (or didnt) or do you let it go and forget what happened (or didnt happen)? Do you wonder/imagine how it would be if things had been different or do you think that there is no point in imagining as you cannot possibly go back in time and replace what happened. Perhaps, it would not change anything and perhaps, you would really have different regrets if things had been really different.

So are you a pessimist or an optimist or a cynic?

A pessimist would probably say that it could not have been worse and would regret what s/he did / didnt do mighty heavily. An optimist on the other hand would have said that everything happens for your own good. And a cynic would say that if you had (or hadnt) done what you regret, you would be regreting doing (or not doing) that thing (in short, you never win).

A realist will probably say that the reality that you did do (or not do) that thing and since there is no time machine, you cannot change it. But you can still control how things will turn out in the future and you have to look forward and decide the course of action.

If you are a believer, you would probably say that God works in mysterious ways and He has a purpose behind making you do (or not do (this is getting tiring, so I am going to assume that my reader will be intelligent)) what you did do. Or you could be a fatalist saying that it is written somewhere and it is beyond your capacity to change it.

If you a hedonist, you would push such regretful thoughts away as they are a hinderence to your way of life. In a sense, it is an escapist tendency but one that allows you to live a happy life. And doesnt the end justify the means, however escapist it may be?

Yes, I have regrets like everybody else. The problem is that I know I have to be realistic but I wonder on what course of action to take and wonder whether that course of action would lead me to more regrets. In short, I become cynical and think that there is no point in doing or not doing, and since I am cynical, I think that either way there are bound to be regrets which puts me back right where I was!

So, in a sense, the question I asked at the beginning of this post is really a rhetorical one. And there is really no answer to it..

The story of how this blog got created is very hilarious and I think is one that the makers of wordpress should hear. I got a invite from GhazalLyrics, a pseydonym (obviously) for a blogger friend who is extremely prolific. When I tried creating my own blog using that invite, I was constantly bugged by an error that seemed to suggest that my username was not composed of letters and numbers alone and/or it was less than 4 characters in length. Well, the interesting bit was that I was using valid usernames, some of them being just my name but they did not work. So, I got back to my friend and told her that this isnt working. So, she sent the invite again and as usual, it did not work. So, she said that she is going to create the blog herself and interestingly, she was not able to create the blog too! Well, to cut a long story short, the username of this blog was a result of her frustration caused by the wordpress software. We are thinking of suing wordpress for unwanted stress and tension created in our lives…